Decade-old reunion: RSVP to the ghosted classmate’s wedding with price tags

In an unexpected twist to catching up, a decade-late reunion came via a wedding invitation—complete with a luxury gift wishlist—sparking heated discussions online about modern etiquette.

The story unfolded in a post on a local forum yesterday, where the user described receiving an out-of-the-blue WhatsApp message from someone he hadn't contacted since graduation.

“We weren’t even connected on Facebook or Instagram, but out of the blue, he sent me a wedding invitation after ten years,” the poster wrote.

Admitting a distant relationship,  he quipped, “At this point, I don’t even know if his partner is a man or a woman.”

Curiosity led him to open the attached Google Form link, where he encountered a detailed wishlist starting with: “This list is for reference only; feel free to express your wishes as you like.” It also suggested guests were “welcome to give as a group.”

The registry featured luxury items like a De’Longhi semi-automatic coffee machine, an Insta360 action camera, and a premium hair styler—several already marked as “claimed.”

Lower down was a “Politely declined gifts” section, with a cheeky note urging guests to turn unwanted blessings into extra applause at the wedding. Banned items included photo frames, kitchenware, and towels.

Adding to the awkwardness, the invitation was only for the church ceremony—no banquet included—suggesting the poster was a ceremonial guest expected to bring a pricey gift anyway.

Seeking advice, the poster asked the community how to RSVP, even musing about prank entries in the form’s “Other” field.

“Brass neck” behavior: Online community

The post drew sharp reactions, with many labeling the couple’s approach “brass neck”—likening it to cold-calling contacts purely for gifts.

Comments overflowed with suggestions, from simply blocking the sender to filling the “Other” field with sarcastic responses like “wishing you many more weddings” or “will make it next time.”

Some defended gift registries as standard in Western weddings, where they often replace cash gifts. However, critics argued this couple seemed to want both—registry items plus any traditional red packets.

Others speculated the invite was a seat-filling tactic to “put on a show,” questioning the motives behind reaching out after a decade of silence.